The purpose of my recent visit to Los Angeles was to attend the Adobe Max conference. Billed as “the creativity conference”, the event was filled with inspiration, applied learning in the latest technology, discovery of trends and thought-provoking ideas when it comes to building a career or business in the industry. As a designer, the content was invaluable and highly needed after a long absence from connecting with my peers because of covid. I can’t wait to take things to the next level.
California Dreaming
I recently had one day in Los Angeles to act as tourist and make the most of a visit before the working portion of my excursion took over. So what does one do with twenty-four hours in the city of angels? Well, to be honest, it was probably closer to thirteen hours, as I like to be in bed by nine like the grandma I am meant to be. But in the moments I was active, I was getting my steps in (and bleeding my wallet for Uber).
9:30am: First stop was The Original L.A. Farmer’s Market and The Grove shopping area. Purpose was to source local goods that I can’t find back home in Canada like regional spices, teas and chocolate. I may have failed to check the opening schedule for the market and got there a bit early, so I used the wait time to walk up to West Hollywood (which also got my Target fix in). The Original L.A. Farmer’s Market does have a good variety of vendors and unique items. I also managed to pick up some varied flavours of Nonna’s Empanadas for lunch and dinner. I had honestly never tried this Latin American delicacy before, which is a damn shame because they are delicious.
1:30pm: after dropping off my purchases at the hotel, I made my way to The Broad, a contemporary art gallery in downtown Los Angeles a few blocks from my hotel. Tickets are free but must be booked in advance. The highlight of this visit was entering Yayoi Kusama’s Infinity Mirror Room—The Souls of Millions of Lights Away. I also got to see the work of contemporary artist Jeff Koons, whom I got to hear stories from later in the week.
4:30pm: I would be remiss if I didn’t take the opportunity to visit the beach while in California. And so this is where my hectic twenty-four hour adventure ended—at the end-point of America’s famous Route 66, Santa Monica Pier, as the sun set along the horizon of the ocean Pacific.
Shades of Gold
There are few things more relaxing and spiritually rewarding than a lazy Autumn drive through a landscape altering its palette from green to shades of gold. At the coordinates of 53.2033° N, 105.7531° W—in the boreal transition region known as where pine meets prairie—we spent our day immersed in an environment rich with colour and the scent of Fall. Whereas Spring and Summer are more floral, I personally love the musky sweet smell of a pile of leaves and what it signals. In the air today, it was potent.
We even had a wildlife encounter in almost the same location I saw two black bears five months ago. A red fox that was laser-focused on the delicacies of the roadside. I’d never seen one so close before. We could have pet it with how close it ventured to my vehicle (but, of course, did not).
Here’s hoping he was able to feast, as we all hope to heading into winter.
Grasslands
It was getting late. I placed the book I was reading on the nightstand and looked over at my partner who was fast asleep after a long day. I wasn’t ready for slumber just yet though … the night was calling.
And I was staying in a place famous for it.
Grasslands National Park in southwest Saskatchewan is the darkest dark sky preserve in Canada. After hours, as the gradient sunset fades to black, the sky becomes a glittering tapestry of stars and visible planets, the scale of which merits nothing short of awe. It is perhaps the best place in the country to humble one’s self and get a sense of the grand scope of our shared universe.
As part of a late summer road trip, we made our way to the village of Val Marie (population 126)—the gateway to Grasslands—and stayed overnight in a converted church named The Sanctuary Inn. As soon as I stepped inside, I was taken aback by how quiet everything was. There was no ambient noise from vehicular traffic. No TV for distraction. Just the sound of our own conversation and birds chirping outside. After a summer shaped by loss and hardship, it was the peace we needed.
Our first full day at Grasslands, we did the self-paced ecotour scenic drive and back country loop. At 140 kilometres long, I didn’t expect it to take as long as it did but in total our prairie safari lasted over seven hours. The adventure was exclusively on gravel roads (some more maintained than others). Beyond epic prairie landscapes, we also observed coyote, vast colonies of prairie dog, and several herds of bison roaming free … and even spotted a lone bison, whom the visitor centre staff informed me was “kicked out of the herd” during this rutting season for not being strong enough. I was assured, however, that his time-out would be over in a few weeks when he could return.
On the back country roads were a few isolated homes and ranches and I wondered what the occupant’s lives must be like with no immediate neighbours and any type of services literally hours away. A life in isolation can occasionally be appealing to me, especially after this pandemic, but the reality of it would be far different than my idealization. We do need others. Even if reluctantly.
I tiptoed to the entrance in an attempt to not wake him. After turning off the inside and outside light, I opened the door and was met with complete, enveloping darkness. It was the blackest night I have ever experienced. It was another world.
I was 33 when I received the news.
I still remember my father’s sullen face as he informed me he had less than a year to live. I never pictured my dad as anything but strong. He was always the protector. A former athlete, he was my definition of vigour and brawn. So to see him in that state was unsettling and spoke of just how dire the situation truly was.
A few months later when I turned 34, he was gone.
Since that day, I’ve kept him close both figuratively and literally. In my home, on a bookshelf, sat an inconspicuous gold metal box containing his remains. It didn’t resemble a traditional urn. Rather, it was contemporary and not unlike decor available for sale at Home Sense. Guests would never guess it’s true purpose. I felt a sense of comfort having it. An inanimate presence that I would occasionally hold one-sided conversation with. Over time, I built a makeshift shrine with trinkets collected from my travels. Places he would have liked to visit. Achievements he would want to be part of. It was my way of keeping him involved.
Playing on my mind has always been the thought of “letting go” but I was never sure if I would be strong enough. Grief may follow predictable patterns but everyone’s experience and timeline is unique. Eight years on, mine is still there. The sorrow quieter but ambient; I anticipate it will never fully wane.
I always wanted to honour my father in a very specific way. The pandemic influenced me to finally plan for it. As much as we all wanted to break out of our homes after consecutive lockdowns, I envisaged my father’s spirit the same way. A box—even a gold box—was not worthy for his eternal rest. I originally toyed with the idea of taking him to a place he always wanted to visit but had never been (just to say he made it there) but later determined that he needed to be closer. To have eternal rest in a familiar locale that brought him peace in life. A place where those survived could form new memories while thinking of him.
Only his favourite place in the world would do. The crown jewel of Canada: Banff National Park.
My father loved the Rockies. He visited so often, every road, every trail, was embedded in his mind. From valley to peak, the unspoilt wilderness—and wildlife which he always revered and respected—were affirming for him. Thus, in perfect orchestration with loved ones present and a bighorn sheep that curiously observed the ceremony from afar, my father was returned to the wild he loved so much. Goodbye for now, but not forever.
We are all eternally bound by the earth, sea and air.
A Fabled Tea House in the Sky
I was 13.
It was July and my family was on our annual summer vacation that year in Banff National Park, Alberta. We strolled the shore of world-renowned Lake Louise; no matter how many times I’d seen it—and at that age, I’d already seen it a lot, as the Rockies were my father’s favourite travel destination—I always marvelled at how pristine the snow-capped peaks and aqua-green water were. In colour and scale, it was such a contrast from my home on the prairies. After some admiration, my father wanted to take my childhood dog, a loyal border collie named Pepper, for a longer walk while my mother and I window-shopped the boutiques in the hotel. We verbally agreed to meet in an hour or so.
The “or so” turned out to be half a day later. My father and Pepper went on a very long walk to a mountain-top tea house.
I always remembered his stories of this hike. His wonder at the vistas and of hearing an avalanche rumble in the distance. Also, the exertion required by him (and my dog) to complete the loop. I was never much into hiking in my youth but as an adult, immersion in the forest is a favoured pastime. So this year, a special year, I was determined to retrace his steps and also climb to that fabled tea house in the sky.
The Badlands
I must have been around three.
Or perhaps four.
At any rate, it was an age when memories start to stick and experiences shape the person you will eventually become. I was in my maternal grandparent’s basement. My mom was deep in conversation au Francais with my grandmother and I tried to distract myself by exploring the space as I waited for them to finish. There wasn’t much; an older, multi-unit dwelling, its basement was unfinished for the most part save a washer/dryer and a cracked concrete floor that I remember being cold on my feet. The lack of decor in the basement was actually in stark contrast to the rest of their technicolour home where I distinctly remember a forest green living room, Peptol-Bismol pink bathroom, and baby blue bedroom. Everything was completely colour-coordinated to precision with matching carpet, furniture and accessories.
But there was one thing I found in the basement that caught my attention: a miniature toy dinosaur.
I was riveted. At the time, no one had told me what a dinosaur was. I don’t even think I’d ever seen a picture of one. I took the small toy with me, constructing adventures in my head on the bus ride home about what it was and where it came from. I probably didn’t stop talking about it as my parent’s eventually got me more toys and some books about cretaceous creatures—I even remember my first one purchased at Woolco, which I’ve kept all these years. I’ve been fascinated ever since.
As he always did, my father cultivated my interests by introducing me to one of the best places to learn about dinosaurs in the world: Drumheller, Alberta, home of the badlands and world-renowned Royal Tyrrell Museum of Paleontology, which I visited this week … taking me back to those childhood days full of wonder and curiosity.
Your Occasional Monty
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